Are you struggling as the leader of your home? Are you tired of having a nagging wife? Do you get respect everywhere except for in your home? Last question, are you loving her as Christ loves the church?
In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body
There are some things that you have to do as the husband if you want the respect from her. It’s hard for a woman to submit to someone she has no respect for. It’s even more difficult to submit to someone you can’t trust! She should be able to trust you to not only be faithful but also to protect and provide! A woman will submit easier to a man she feels will protect her! If she has to protect herself, she will resent you for it! If she has to provide for herself she will lose respect for you.
Why does God want you to love her as CHRIST loves the church? Think of the sacrifice Christ made for the church. He gave up his all, making the ultimate sacrifice. He wants you to love her as He loves the church because in your loving her as Christ loves the church she’s experiencing the love of God for her through you. What better way to show her the love of God than through the one she becomes one with! You all becoming one representing the intimacy between her and God! It’s symbolic! The closer you are to him the closer she is to Him! She also has to know that you have her back! She needs to know that you’ll protect her when danger arrives. She needs to be secure that they will always be provided for. You’ve been called to be the head. She’s the help meet but you’ve been called to be the provider. If you’re in position as the head of the family doing those things that will make her feel secure, its easier for her to submit to you because she knows that she can trust you to protect and to provide. Don’t try to rule with an iron fist. You’re called to love. He commanded you to love and her to submit. Men don’t have a problem with submission but most meant struggle