Is your idea of a Happily Ever After Marriage far from what you’re experiencing right now? Have you struggled to get your husband to do what he’s supposed to do? Does your husband lack those leadership qualities you believe he’s supposed to have? Listen to these words of wisdom and you’ll be well on your way to a happy, healthy marriage! Twice married to the same man and life has NEVER been better!
My husband and I divorced and remarried in the same year. During that time apart, God showed me some things about me that I was not pleased with. Apparently, God wasn’t either. He reminded me of what most of us dread hearing. The dirty, horrible word that most strong willed women like myself refuse to listen to. It’s the word that is almost unheard of from women who enter a marriage with a strong independent woman background. OMG, I absolutely hated the “S” word! The word is “SUBMISSION”! Don’t run off now. Just hear me out because it was a journey God took me on and this journey has lead me to a happy, fruitful marriage that continues to blossom like I never imagined!
Submission means yielding to someone in position of authority.
I want to start this out by saying You want a man in your house but you want to be the man OF the house. If you want a successful marriage, your household has to be in order. There can only be one man of the house. Either its going to be you or your husband. If a man has no place in his home, he’ll find a place outside of the home.
A man needs to be respected which is why God tells us to submit. There is no greater damage done to a man than not having respect in his own household. We perish for the lack of knowledge. We treat the word submission as a dirty word relating it to a form of slavery and weakness. That is far from the truth.
Submission puts you in proper position to help lead your family to its destiny. If you have an issue with submission to your husband you have an issue with submission to God. Read the scripture in its entirety, It says “Wives submit unto your husbands as unto the Lord.” When God tells us to do something we have to realize, it is always for our good. Obedience to what God tells us puts us in proper position to receive blessings from him. Everything God does is in order. Your husband is the head you are the neck. Where can the head go without the direction of the neck? You have so much power as a wife to help your husband be able to lead effectively. He’s the leader but you’re the driving force! When you’re in submission allowing him to lead, you’re honoring God. Submission means you’re willing to allow him to lead even if he messes up. When he messes up you encourage him to get back up because you understand the mission in the man God has chosen to lead your home. Remember you are the neck, the lifter up of the head. You can’t lift up the head if you’re out of position. When the head is in order, the household is in order. You are the connection between the head and the rest of the body (your family). Your position as wife is vital to the success of your family and nothing will prosper if you are out of position. Well what if he isn’t acting the way he’s supposed to? Well what if you speak those things that be not as though they were and confess that He is a man of God. He is walking in holiness and obedience to the word of God. He is anointed. He loves you as Christ loves the church. He is a great leader, father, provider, protector. Stop making excuses for not doing what God has told you to do. You have the tools and the power but you’re allowing what you see to determine how you act instead of walking by faith and not by sight.
Submission is an act of faith. Will you trust God in ALL things including submission! Remember that whenever God tells you to do something, he’s setting you up to BLESS YOU!